It feels as if there are mountains of changes in our lives, mostly good, and with all changes comes an adjustment period. Adjustment periods are frustrating for me because I want to jump back into the way life was but life is not going to go back. I have come to conclude that I am a person who loves to know I have a routine to fall back on and at the same time I need to know I am not a slave to that same routine. It seems I get comfortable in a routine and when I least expect it the routine is shaken up.
I love being in the kitchen. I love creating savory dishes, decadent desserts, and succulent drinks. Warm fresh apple cinnamon rolls, biscuits to dunk in our stew during the cold months, and apple pie to greet the autumn months. I love natural living and so does my gut. I am a meal planner, chore manager, homeschool scheduler, and grocery shopping guru.
However these days I am left wondering where my zest, joy, and love of running our household has gone. My heart is struggling and I’m not sure how to get it back. It seems lately I am fighting to have a pep in my step, a wellspring of joy in my heart, and a giggle on my lips. Nine months after Timmy’s birth I am still struggling to figure out what order to put our ducks.
I am reminded in these moments of change and adjustment that the biggest thing I can do is give myself a break. I can be realistic with all that has gone on over the last year. This last year we moved, had a baby, and took a life-altering year-long class. Three huge gigantic changes!
It is with the utmost importance that I spend time in the word and in prayer. Not to add one more thing to my day, but because in these moments with the Lord is where he solidifies the truths I do truly believe about myself. Christ through me is calm, peaceful, and joyful. Christ through me will tackle each day. Christ through me will accomplish everything I am meant to get done. Christ in me has got this. God’s got this! God’s got me!
I also need to let myself off the hook! I am the best person in my kid’s lives to mentor them, love them, and support them. Christ through me speaks wisdom, guidance, love, and support. There is a message every mother I have ever talked to has said, “I’m pretty sure I’m screwing up my kids forever”. Yet, these same moms that are saying these words have kids with beautiful hearts, minds, bodies, and souls. These moms are doing an absolutely wonderful job! Will you join me in changing the messages we tell ourselves! Will you join me in taking courage and confidence that we are awesome super hero moms! Every. single. day. We are super hero’s in the eyes of our children and we are comfort to their hearts. Let us love ourselves as much as we love our kids! Let’s give ourselves the same break we would give our kids!
I feel as if I am tripping over my own feet but in the midst of tripping, I’m going to keep walking. I’m going to let God the Father hold me up, guide my path, and I will keep walking. Soon the path I am on now will become familiar and given time my family will find our groove. Given time my meal planning, school schedule, cleaning lists, and grocery shopping will get back into alignment. I am confident of this!
Will you join me mama friends in giving ourselves a break? Let’s expect our best, but not demand perfection. Let’s allow the adjustment periods we all go through to sift themselves out as they often do. God’s got this! God’s got me! God’s got us! I’m breathing, I’m letting go, and I’m trusting God with my family!
What helps you ease into adjustment periods for your family? What helps you get back on track? I’d love to know your tips and tricks!