My little Timmy is a little over a month old and we are so grateful for his presence in our family. God is teaching us endurance, perseverance, patience, kindness, and so many other things a midst our little buddies arrival. God is also in the midst of reminding me to put my mommy blinders back on as my house explodes with laundry, dusting, and other chores that are getting put on the back burner.
Today, I walked into our living room and I groaned, because there are books on the floor, blankets scattered here and there, laundry baskets filled with clothes. In the midst of dust, laundry, and scattered books I saw for the first time in a while kids with smiles on their faces. I saw my girl’s playing lovingly together as friends, I saw movie cases on the floors with shows we have watched as family. Something else that my living room did not tell me was that I do indeed have a newborn and the other five loves in my life are fighting the flu, possible pneumonia, and tiredness from life.
Dear sweet mama with a messy house like mine, let us take our messy houses as badges. Let us see past the laundry and the dust to the relationships that are forming because we are willing to let the dust settle. Let us trust the Lord to help us get our house work done and the ability to give ourselves grace when the house explodes. Our relationships with our kid’s are so much more important and heaven knows they are only small for such a short time.
In order for anything to go well with my kiddo’s it must start with relationship first, I must know them intimately, I must know their triggers, what scares them, what makes them giggle, and what ticks them off. Forming a relationship takes hours of playing with them, snuggling them, working with them, and while teaching our kid’s chores and housework has it’s place. So does letting the house work go and having a picnic at the park, ice skating at the local rink, or playing the tenth game of slap jack. These are things that relax our kids, these are times when my kid’s are going to develop security with me and share their hearts with me. Allowing for further teaching and training. I have also learned that as I develop a deeper relationship with my kid’s the house work gets done with my kid’s by my side helping me out. They want my house work to get done even faster because they know it means we can go have fun faster.
Dear Mama’s with a messy house, let us not allow the untidy state of our house define the awesome mama’s that we are. Sure, we may need to learn to organize or have a cleaning schedule to help us stay on track and ease our brains and the brains of our families. But, let us look past the mess and know that what it really means is that relationships are being invested in, the lives of our kid’s are being shaped and molded by us through the strength and guidance of the Holy Spirit. You’re doing a good job mama! Hang in there!!